Ever since I can remember, I have always enjoyed the company of women. Regardless the age, I felt that the greatest ease was around females. Contrary to the popular belief, a man can be in the company of many women without him being labeled has a homosexual or simply a "horny" guy with a perverse mind. Sure, there are plenty of men out there that wear those types of terms on their sleeves but I assure you (as there is a balance to every thing) there are true gentlemen out there. When I say I truly appreciate a woman, I know I have repeated this numerous times, I mean that I can see the beauty within a woman. I can sit in a, let's say, restaurant and glance across the floor at a stunning young woman without having a single though of bedding her. I can walk up to her and simply tell her, "Hello, sorry to interrupt. I just wanted to come over here and tell you that you look simply divine; beautiful." Afterward, I would walk away or would head back to my seat.
No reason to see her reaction, she would be stunned and amazed how a man can randomly make a statement and go on about his business. It's the same as you walking into a hall with the most exquisite paintings displayed and you felt compelled to stop and bask in its beautiful art. Mind you, this type of approach doesn't work with any female. Remember, I mentioned 'ladies', women who have class yet can still be seductive. A gentleman is never afraid of approaching any woman; it's the courage to project your appreciation for a woman. Every thing is a process. One statement can lead to a single conversation. Before all the brand named clothes and the shiny shoes, expensive watch, and so on, there is the art of conversation. You must always mentally stimulate a woman before you can arrive at any conclusion. A single solid conversation goes a long way. A conversation that isn't about you but her. Let's face it, women love talking - not all women but most. This is common sense, which means a man should do the exact opposite...listen. Not only hear but listen. What you do not realize is that you can find out so much about this woman in just one conversation, all in the first conversation.
Appearances are always important but never forget in this type of communication it's all about 'talking the talk' first and 'walking the walk' later. Worry about your communications skills first. Then, worry about how presentable you should be looking. A gentleman should have the entire package (the talk and the walk) not just pieces of it here and there.
- The Gentleman Tip of the Day -
- Do not confuse arrogance with confidence. A confident man is afraid of nothing but knows he is wide open to failure. As great as your skills may be (in any field), always be aware that there is someone else out there better than you. This keeps the balance, it means that you remain humble. Women adore this, they will make it very clear how much they admire it. Don't let this go to your head. Your ego should always be in check. Boasting is an action of arrogance, shame on you. If you have an intimidating toned figure that other men distance themselves from, it means nothing. Your wit is more dangerous than your muscles. It's smoother to simply walk away from a confrontation rather to walk into one thinking you can defuse the situation. Don't be stupid, seriously. If you find it difficult to do that, you have some self-esteem issues or need anger management. Confidence can be achieved easily, as long as you keep things simple. Life is what you make it...This means only you make things complicated so stop pointing the finger at every thing else.
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