One thing I've learned while living in a 3rd world country is that you need nearly an infinite amount of patience to 'put up' with people and things here. It's been nearly a week (and over a week since my last blog) since I've actually done work online at all. I had some issues with my net provider and now, I'm running with a new one. With that solved, back to business.
I have mentioned this plenty of times to many people before, every thing in life is a process; some processes take longer than others. You must realize (gentleman or not) that every thing in life requests for your patience. It's good to work on one of the many virtues a human being can have. In my opinion, it's the most important. With patience comes every thing else - it's like the flagship of virtues. Since we have contact with other humans every day, it is very important to know that the level of your patience is set by the environment you are in. Growing up in southern California, I was always the very laid back type (still am) and had a high level of patience...until I reached Bangladesh. My patience meter shot through the roof and I realized all of my other characteristics, such as patience, reached a very high level. This goes back to the idea of being open-minded and not ignorant.
Anyone can reach my levels given the state of environment. It's easier for me since I am very good at adapting and taking in what must be accepted. Never delude yourself in thinking you have control over every thing. You must accept the fact that there are things in this world that you cannot control; I'll discuss this at a later post. What makes a real man or a woman is your ability to adapt. It's not about the situation you are given but how you take that situation on. Play the cards that you have been dealt. By all means, this is not an easy process nor does it end over-night. I will repeat, every thing is a process and some take longer than others.
Currently, I reside in a world with selfish, ignorant, and self-involved people. Let's just say, the negatives heavily outweigh the positives. That is a type of world I wish upon no one.
- The Gentleman Tip of the Day -Gentleman, one important thing when it comes to women. As a gentleman, you can be as honest as possible (keep their feelings in consideration) but realize that women will not be as revealing. Next time you pursue a woman and you are really interested in having a solid relationship with her, squeeze the complete truth out of her. Don't be dumbfounded by her beauty and act as if everything is dandy. Every woman, nice and or naughty, has secrets. Read carefully: women have secrets and not just a secret. Those secrets may be damaging to the entire relationship in the future. Expect nothing and I assure you, you will never feel disappointed. Throw the whole "you'll accept me for who I am" idea out the window. In a successful relationship with anyone, honest truly is the best policy. You may have secrets of your own but should know when and how to reveal those unspoken words of past. A true gentleman will always state his faults so honesty should not be a foreign term to you. Keep note, a woman's perspective is completely different. It is true that every single is different and their ways of showing feelings are different. But as a whole, women will not reveal all simply by asking them. This, once again, is where your listening skills come into play. Reveal what you need to gradually, not just in one day. You should try to do the same with the opposite sex.