It's true, some people can care less about what others think and they go on about things without being disturbed. Although, most of us are caught up on paying the bills or trying to improve ourselves professionally in our careers. It doesn't matter where you work but as far as your status is concerned, it's important to keep up with appearances. It's not just about talking the talk, it's also about walking the walk. Week-in and week-out, some of us try to work hard and party hard as well. For those who are juggling two to three jobs, more power to you. You gotta do whatcha gotta do. For those who have the opportunity to keep their skills sharp and image up to date, there is no excuse there. You must, I repeat, you must learn how to keep on with your everyday business while never have anyone question your integrity or reputation. Remember, I'm not all about style. As a personal stylist, I go beyond your wardrobe. It's the entire lifestyle I concentrate on. It starts with the clothes - it ends with you. Here is something for all:
~ Ladies First ~ & - Gentleman Tip of the Day -
There are certain ways to get your name out there so you can advance in your professional and personal life. I have learned over the years, as the wonderful observer that I am, there are certain guidelines to follow. I want to share with you all how there is a very effect way to keep the allure to not just your name but what you do.
- Most important thing is your reputation. This isn't done overnight, unfortunately. In fact, it doesn't take days, weeks, or months. It takes years. The majority of your traits should be positive. If you have 60% positive traits and only 40% remains to whatever you choose, not good enough. Get to work - 95% is more like it, no one is perfect. The reason why it takes years is because whenever you may find yourself in a 'sticky' situation and you are in question, people will give you the benefit of a doubt. They will have known you for years or have heard from others of how you run your life morally, ethically, and legally. Respect is the keyword.
- Be heard, not seen. Your hard work will be noticed. You have to know how to be patient. The mystery created here is very important. People will (mostly family and friends to co-workers) speak of your good deeds. This type of rumor you actually want. Also, try staying away from parties or gatherings. Try, instead, attending more major ceremonial events like weddings. I get invited to so many different kinds of events, like birthday parties, and I choose to turn them down politely and make some excuse. Soon after, I hear people are dying to see me. In a way, you become famous within your very large circle or network. You soon have a small reputation of "he's hard to get in contact with". In turn, when you show up to the person's very important gathering, you are hailed as a very kind and caring person. They notice that you have taken the time from your 'busy' schedule to attend an event close to their heart. When you start turning heads, while those heads have smiles, you are definitely on the right track.
- Selflessness. This should be like your positive traits, in the high 90s. You can never be 100% selfless, that just wouldn't make sense. You have to know that you must first find yourself in a position to be that selfless person. Place yourself in a position where you are able to help others. Don't be fooled, there are people who will take advantage of you. Give to those who deserve it. That person may not have done anything for you, but that's not the point. After you have noticed a few times, you realize the person is actually very caring and helpful. That person needs to be rewarded. This is when you come in and help them or ask if you may assist them in a time of need. Remember never to expect anything return, not even a 'thank you'. It's about being selfless, not selfish. The moment you expect something in return is the moment it becomes a favor. It's not helping if you are doing someone a favor. Learn to know the difference. I have to thank one of my ex-girlfriends for this one.
- Diplomacy. There is much more to being a diplomat than just not taking sides. There is a key action that people really do not realize. The ultimate form of a diplomat is their amazing ability to avoid confrontation. A true diplomat, majority of the time, will rarely find themselves in a position of taking sides. You have to be honest and look at things from all different perspectives. There are always more sides to a story. The main object here is to not be ignorant. You will never truly be successful in life by being close minded. Every move you make has to be premeditated. This means always look for every outcome, think of the consequences of your actions. Whether it's at work or family & friends related, you will be most respected when you find a solution that is best for both parties. It's not easy being the voice of reasoning. There are plenty of things to keep in mind, like people's short tempers. It's best to talk things out when everything has simmered down. Another key action is that whenever you do find yourself in between two parties, make sure you are discussing the situation where you will be comfortable in. Location, location, location. It applies to more than just real estate.
- Belief. Just like keeping a toned and sexy body, a lot of self-discipline is involved. You have to become your idea, your beliefs. Confidence within yourself is very important. Do not fret over failure, we all fail. Many of the billionaires out there weren't just handed their fortunes, they tried and failed over and over again. The ultimate prize was their hard work being payed off, immensely. This also pertains to how you perceive and conceive things. It's not about your bank account that measures your success. "Wealth is of the heart and mind, not of the wallet." - BBC. Your passion in whatever you do is a must! Passion is the most important factor to your personal beliefs. Passion needs to bleed through your clothes. You have to believe that you can succeed. This confidence will definitely shine when someone speaks very highly of you at the next ceremonial event you attend. People will see a man or a woman of class and sophistication. Believe in yourself and believe in your hard work. Trust me, with patience, it has a nice little ending to your story.
Ladies and gentlemen, to sum it all up, not boasting about your status is the way to go. Your status and reputation is built on the roads and bridges you create with other people, not necessarily with your actual work that gives you a pay check. Keep it legit, keep it stylish. ;-)