As much of a gentleman I am, being charming and or flirting came very natural to me. The thing is the look into the eyes and smiling in a subtle manner were the first steps to flattering. Funny enough I have been hit on by more older women than younger. I've always had what I call my "teeny-bopping" fans - I still do. I am no celebrity by all means. But I feel that if I ever did become a celebrity, the 'fame' wouldn't be a stranger to me. I have never been the one to hog attention or try to be the center of attention. At the same time, the attention I do receive I reciprocate with a lot of love and care. Just like how a real gentleman should. Confident and not arrogant.
I am always complimented in what I wear and how I carry myself. I am always wanted at parties/events/gatherings but not because I'm some celebrity. It's because I bring a comfortable aura with me. I've found that people find it very easy to talk to me and pretty much let me in their secrets. No blackmailing so don't worry about it. I'm your Swiss bank account. That off-shore account no one knows about that stores all your secrets never to be leaked from the vault. Remember, there is always a balance to everything. The event may have a person who is the 'life of the party'. I'm the calm and sober of the party - the touch of class. Gentleman, it's fine to go all out and act like a fool with the fellas but when it comes down to a non-frat party, behave yourself. And I'm sure your 'frat' days should be over by now, that's if you are out of college. Stick with my '3S' Effect and you are good to go.
*3S Effect (Sexy, Sophisticated, Smooth)
~ Ladies First ~
A couple of trends I hope most have you caught up on for this fall/winter. There are always the fur you get during the colder months. This time around there is plenty of it. Although, this time around the French would label it, faux; as in fake. Fake-fur covered the runway. It was like a back-handed joke to all that is PETA. If you are pro-PETA, I'm sorry. I mean no disrespect but neither did Karl Lagerfeld (creative director of Chanel, Fendi, etc.). Oh, the pretty colors. Ladies, matching different hues are actually going to be reciprocated with compliments. Putting on one shade of green with a similar darker shade of green is a "go". Also, there has also been an influence from the 50s. Those just past the knees dresses with a slight tease of the cleavage are in.
I'm not a huge fan of gold (more on white-gold or platinum) but when it comes to dresses for formal wear, ladies, wear it wisely. Remember, something as glamorous as gold can stick out like a sore thumb. At the same time, the darker shades of gold are welcomed. But let's save the gold for a special occasion or event, shall we? Glamour is fine but not arrogance so try to tone it down, regardless of what you've seen on the runway. I'm just saying that this season it's not all beige and beige.
Finally, my favorite part. Thank you all the top designers for this one! I always rant on about being a proper lady and nothing screams lady-like more than the classy clothes she wears with grace. Get rid of those high-heels and your micro-minis. What's in for these colder months are skirts that graze the shins and or around the ankles. Match these with kitten heels or flat-soled boots. It's a more down-to-earth look, stay humble - stay classy. You can find more info on all of these on places like Style.com.
- Gentleman Tip of the Day -
What's with the hair, guy? I know most of you remember our high school (or grade school) days. We would never leave the house without slapping our heads with gel. Disgusting, I know. We were kids then, that's our only excuse. Even now, we go back to our hair and style it the way we think best. Before mentioning all the different types of hair products, I would recommend all of you to stick with the shortest cut as possible. Personally, I like natural when it comes to grooming. After I take a shower - on the days I shampoo - I massage an after-shower hair lotion/cream. It keeps that natural shiny look without the nasty stickiness and grease. I suggest you find and purchase the product I use. Just look for the after-shower hair cream, some are even anti-dandruff. Main point here is that it keeps your hair and roots healthy while styling it in the most natural way.
- Mousse - This isn't pretty bad actually. With recent hair product technology, most of these products are not harmful to your head. This is ideal for guys who have thinner or fine hair, it adds more of that volume that you may be lacking. Huge plus: you can re-style your hair throughout the entire day without having that sticky feeling.
- Gel - Ah, yes. Good ol' gel. Main objective of this product that it will steadily keep your hair in place. You want it slicked back? Go for it. Cold weather and heavy winds, doesn't matter. Your hair will remain the same. Huge drawback: yes, the unwanted stickiness. Like I said, it's better to stay away from gel. To be honest, a hard hat of hair is really unflattering.
- Pomade - I actually am quite fond of this product. It gives you that natural look along with added texture. It goes well with guys with that "messy" hair look. The beautiful thing about this thing is you really don't need too much on your hands to style up your hair. Just skim the top of the container with your fingers and place it on your head. Small quantities of pomade gives you a plentiful amount of texture.
- Hairspray - You may be thinking...girly? Well, not really. Although, not too many men will opt to using this type of product. Yes, your hands stay clean while all you have to do is spray only a few times. No, it is not the best way to go in styling your hair. The main reason for this is hairspray tends to leave a very strong smell. It's easy to apply on your hair and keeps your hands clean but the effect will not stay for long and the smell at times is unbearable. The only real plus for this is most of the hairspray products out there have UV sunscreen protection in them so if you spend most of your time outdoors, don't be afraid to spray on!
If you are like me, try and find those non-sticky anti-dandruff after shower hair lotions/cream. That is the best, healthiest, and most natural way to style your hair. The second best option, in my opinion, is the pomade. But of course, it all depends on the length of your hair and style. I always cut my hair to how my face is shaped, always a short to a medium cut. It all depends on your face shape before you tag on the style and start using those hair products.